Family Meeting with 13 day to go

Trying to find wellness and balance in life for me boils down to one question, What can I control? The truth is we don't have control over much, but we do have control over how we respond to the events occurring around us and how we let them impact the next event. As the wedding draws closer the excitement is building and at the same rate as the anxiety. When I was toward the end of my first pregnancy I remember being at the grocery store and buying milk. I had done this hundreds of times but this time I noticed the expiration date, December 1. That was after my due date. God willing, I would be a mother by then with a healthy baby at home. Everything would be different. The milk expired before my daughters arrival, I had to wait until the 5th, but everything was different and my daughters arrival was nothing like I had anticipated, but it all turned out alright in the end.
   Maybe a wedding should be the same, get the dress and the tux and wait and one day the pastor calls and says "meet me at the church." Would the shock of the surprise be better then the anxiety of anticipation? The details can be overwhelming. Does it really matter who makes a toast and in which order? Not to me but maybe to someone else. It is one day, but a really BIG day. An important day that represents the beginning of a new life, a new family is being born.
What if not everyone is happy about it? The family meeting was to lay out the events of the weekend, dinners, kayak races, hiking, two sundresses needed and botton down shirts, and the walk down the ailes with friend and family gathered together. Some are excited for ties, others are not. How long is the ceremony? Can I have two pieces of cake? Do we have to dance? Do we get to have our hair done? Do we have to be there?
   No one can control another person's actions or feelings. We can try till we am blue in the face. What is my perspective versus that of a child? I was a child, but my parents are still married, so I do not know what this day means to to them. I can see confusion, fear, excitement and joy on their beautiful faces all swirled together. All I can do is listen, be loving, be patient and have faith.